She won't marry you. You are the woman of valor eshet khayil sung about by Solomon in Proverbs 31 http: Good for you, good for your husband, and definitely good for your childen. Should we try to heed their counsel and marry in the Church.
But it would not change my love for that person. With minimal support on my side and going against everything I had grown up learning, I had to trust my relationship with God.