I ask myself that every day.
My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. He learned that I didn't pick up on ambiguity and that I took it personally when he didn't show consideration for me during the times that it was possible to.
Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important. Should either of you sisters raise your children and wonder what faith will they choose.